Labels are an everyday part of our lives. We label objects, places, organisations and wear labels to signify belonging to a group or an allegiance to a brand.Even our names are a form of label that we identify with. Without labels we would live in chaos and travelling, working, and even shopping trips would present many challenges. Labels are an effective way of conveying meaning quickly and efficiently.
I do however, question how far we have come in assigning labels. There are many positives in identifying and labeling and grouping people. Some groups support and help individuals with specific issues and membership to that group brings positive and much needed assistance and support. These grouping are understood and benefit our society in many ways with specific learning difficulties, physical disabilities etc. However, for groups created for some minorities this can lead to making incorrect generalisations and assumptions that attract negative attention or cause members to be further marginalised.
I am sure when all groups are created the intention is to bring like minded people together and the members gain from a sense of belonging and a network of support. However, often people are involuntarily categorised into groups due to bias and ignorance born of fear. The divisions that are drawn separate individuals and single them out for criticism and judgement and in the worst cases bullying. The more we are identified and slotted into a particular group the more we are categorised and labeled the more we are divided. While we have been rightly working towards equal rights and away from discrimination ever since we abolished slavery and women were able to vote inadvertently we have now successfully divided up our communities into micro groups that quite often have the reverse effect.
Some categories are a part of every day life. Just by applying for a passport we have been sorted by nationality, gender, and age. I can't help thinking the very fact we identify by our differences we further the division and decision that we are separate and different to others. The media do a good job of emphasising labels and the need to identify and box ourselves into a category. Divisions become visible in every context of our lives creating a heightened awareness of being different despite our apparent allegiances.
School can unwittingly encourage these divisions and unwanted attention by the segregating of specials needs, dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism, ADHD and the list goes on.It is impossible to gain oneness while seeking out further reasons we are treated differently and discriminated against.The constant divisions of people into micro groups can cause friction rather than harmony. When we put aside our differences we are strong and present a positive energy that is bigger than the sum of our parts. The success of the human race came from uniting and joining resources. Does it really matter what race, religion, sexual orientation, political view, learning difficulty or even physical features we have. What happened to celebrating our uniqueness and pooling our resources as one big group of international people.
We have learnt to look at differences and believe we are separate partly due to our earthly existence within our three dimensional world where most of the information we take in comes through our five senses. Within our limited view we see ourselves and everyone and everything as being completely separate and unrelated. However, this perception is not the whole story and at a quantum theory level we are all intrinsically linked and affect each other. In fact not only is this evident with human beings, but with every living thing and to take this one step further there is a universal pattern that links all and is affected by all. The balance of nature is an example of these rules each species affect and rely on another which brings a natural order. Nothing works in isolation and everything we do has an effect on others and our environment. Therefore when we apply this to ourselves seeing through all of the carefully segregated groups we have created and the associated labels can help us to let go of judgement and accept others. Breaking down the assumptions and barriers these labels can create is the best way forward for us all.
Fear can often be the divider pushing us into our segregated safe haven where we know what to expect. But once we realise this approach has the opposite outcome it is time to challenge our narrow view. Taking ourselves out of our comfort zones and exploring a new environment with different people gives us better understanding, promotes tolerance and a desire to search for oneness. We can now recognise a chance for positive learning is available in taking time with those who appear on the surface to be most unlike ourselves and outside or our usual circles. We stand to truly gain a better comprehension of how unity is the most powerful force for good that we have. Unity promotes the act of giving unconditionally for the good of others and not just ourselves. Fundamentally given the opportunity we all want to give love and to be loved. The usefulness of the labels we have developed become negated when we feel safe enough to let go of the perceived protection of our clans. When we are able to erase constrictions of belonging to a specific country, species and our planet we become an energetic element of the universe. It is by letting go that we gain a sense of freedom and equality. Every element of the universe is important and makes up the rich pattern of life. Through connection and understanding we create a more cohesive and peaceful future for all inhabitants of our planet.
Learn how to develop and support your ability to connect by attending the ConneXions Group
created with the aim of being a safe place to express yourself honestly, listen and be heard, learn new resources to help develop deeper connection and more peaceful and effective relationships.
Find out more details call or E-Mail and to register to attend please use the following link and contact form:
https://www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk/connexionsgroup
Date: 10th March 2020 and thereafter the second Tuesday of the month
Venue: Sunshine Clinic, 175 Send Rd, Woking GU23 7ET
Time: 6.30 - 8pm
Cost: £15
Karen Oliver: www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk karen@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
07782 381855/01932 403780
Student, Woking
Having suffered with anxiety and a lack of confidence for many years I decided it was time to get some help. I heard about Karen through a friend of mine. She is lovely and welcoming and made me feel at ease instantly. She taught me a range of different techniques and methods to help cope with my anxiety and improve my self-esteem. Over 3 sessions with her I noticed a huge difference within myself and was able to use her techniques in daily situations where normally I would have struggled. I can’t recommend her enough!
Coach, Toronto
I love working with Karen. Her EFT skills are epic. She always finds the right words that resonate with me to move me forward. Working with Karen has enabled me to begin to attract bigger opportunities that I knew I was ready for but that were stuck emotionally. Well, I'm stuck no more!!! Thank you Karen!
Project Manager, Camberley
Karen really embodies the concepts she teaches and inspires and encourages you to make changes."
Marketing Manager, Woking
Karen has been a very positive influence on my life and I am very grateful to have discovered her. I find her the most non-judgmental person I have ever come across. Her approach has helped me be more kind and accepting of myself and others and she has helped me really change some of my beliefs and habits. It's great how she helps people find their own inner resources and a path to move forward that is one's own rather than hers. She has also helped me and my husband to find a way back to good communication habits when the stress of work, kids and daily chores had made our communication unintentionally strained and grumpy. I highly recommend her."
Business Owner, Lyne
Karen Oliver is a very special and intuitive lady. I have been seeing her regularly and recommended over 15 friends to see her as she is so amazing. She has helped me with so many huge struggles in my present and my past including the loss of my mother and massive upheavals in my business.
Karen has a very gentle demeanor which makes you feel safe and able to share anything with her. She has a tremendous skill in finding the root of your issue and giving you the tools to help yourself. I always leave a session feeling I can cope with and handle anything and feel equipped to deal with whatever challenge comes next!
When life gives you lemons Karen shows you how to make lemonade! She is my hero.
Retired Teacher, Woking
As soon as I met Karen I felt at ease and more relaxed - as if a weight had been lifted off me.
She seemed to understand what I was experiencing straight away and managed to help me put my feelings and fears into words. It was so good to feel that connection and finally find some one who really understood how I was feeling. EFT has helped me with my over-anxious behaviour by enabling me to dissociate from fearful experiences.
It has been so helpful to learn the tools of how to manage thoughts and feelings and change my experience of inappropriate anxiety.
I always come away feeling relaxed, calm and positive after an EFT session.
It's helped me feel more in control of my life again and I feel safe.
Electrician, Chertsey
When I first met Karen many years ago now it has been life changing. Karen has helped me deal with stress and anxiety so much better and the EFT technique has changed my mindset. I would recommend Karen to anyone and have already recommended 5-6 close friends and family who feel the same. I now have the tools and I am so glad that I did meet Karen as I am a lot calmer now.
Finance, Manager, London
I came to Karen on a friend's recommendation. It was my first experience of therapy and I loved all of it. Karen guided and accompanied me through a huge personal growth journey. I learned so much about myself and feel that I have become a significantly happier person as a result. And I feel that my chances of finding happiness in the future is now greatly improved. Karen is hiighly skilled at getting to the very core of issues. She has a razor sharp perception and is very effective in unblocking my mental barriers. What I apprecite most about Karen is her siprituality, her kind demeanor and depth of experience. thank you Karen you are simply amazing!