ConneXions
Group
·Last
chance to reserve your place on the ConneXions group - December 10th!
·Be
a part of a new movement and super-size your communication
·Take
the opportunity to discover how to develop and benefit from learning
communication excellence.
·Practise
expressive and honest communication
·Feel
fully equipped to interact, listen and share your thoughts and feelings more effectively
When we
learn to connect and communicate our feelings effectively those around us have a better understanding and can offer the support we want.
We spend a
lot of time not communicating, but even when we say nothing, we communicate
something, but probably not what we want others to think or believe about
us. The quality of our communication is
our responsibility and can only develop when we are clear about what we want to
communicate. It is often the case that
we assume the receiver knows how we feel, and they already understand. So many miscommunications can be averted by
learning to be clear on what we want to express.
Just saying
‘I feel rubbish today’ does not help the receiver to understand how you are
feeling or how to respond. The receiver
will have their own reference of what feeling rubbish means and it is unlikely
to be the same. Communicating
effectively requires detail and rather than letting the receiver guess what is
the best approach to support you why not let them know. A good example might
be:
‘I am
feeling quite low today because I have been worrying about my Mum her health
has been undermined by a continuous chesty cough and she is not looking after
herself. I really appreciate that I can
talk to you about this and you have listened to me, that is all I really needed, thanks’
Or
‘I am
feeling angry at work. It seems that no
matter what I do I get criticism. I am
doing my best, but it is not recognised, and I don’t feel valued. I would be really grateful if when I come
home and I go to the bedroom you could give me space to deal with my feelings and I
will come out when I am ready to talk, thank you for understanding.’
We can feel fearful of expressing how we really feel. Maybe we have tried before, but the response we had not been what we had hoped for. Perhaps we had been met with confrontation, criticism or judgement.
Practising effective
communication and connecting in a safe environment can really promote and
develop your communication skills. With your
newly learnt skills it is much easier to let go of the old frustrations and experience
a feeling of being understood and accepted.
Often, we
can believe we have to agree with others’ opinions to be able to get on with
them and that is not easy as we all have our own beliefs. The truth is the most important part of
communication is being able to understand a view point and being open enough to
see the issue from someone else’s map of the world. By developing this ability, we gain
flexibility and acceptance when communicating.
The role of the listener is not to agree or judge, but to accept the current
position of the speaker, know they are doing their best, hear their challenges
and allow them to have a voice. We may
have believed in the past we had to react to the speaker by fixing the issue,
offering advice or joining their campaign.
However, the most valuable response is often to offer understanding and
compassion.
Now that you
understand the theory, learn to hone your skills and take advantage of a safe
place to practise:
ConneXions Group
Find out more details call or E-Mail and to register to attend please use the following link and contact form:
https://www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk/connexionsgroup
Date:
10th December and thereafter the second Tuesday of the month
Venue:
Sunshine Clinic, 175 Send Rd, Woking GU23 7ET
Time:
6.30 - 8pm
Cost:
£15
Karen Oliver:
www.e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
karen@e-motionalsolutions.co.uk
07782 381855/01932 403780
